🚨 The 4 Horsemen of Divorce: How These Behaviors Are Destroying Your Marriage!

Are You Letting These 4 Silent Relationship Killers Wreck Your Marriage?

Hey there,

Did you know there are FOUR destructive behaviors that could be tearing your marriage apart faster than you realize? These aren’t just “bad habits”—they’re TICKING TIME BOMBS that could be quietly dismantling your relationship without you even noticing!

But here’s the thing: If you can spot these behaviors and eliminate them from your marriage, you’ll be on the path to building a stronger, more resilient relationship. Let’s dive in:

🚨BEHAVIOR #1: Stonewalling
Have you ever caught yourself SHUTTING DOWN, withdrawing from your partner, and giving them the silent treatment? This is STONEWALLING, and it’s like building a MASSIVE WALL between you and your spouse. This behavior makes your partner feel IGNORED and UNIMPORTANT, leading to RESENTMENT that can slowly POISON your relationship. If you recognize this in yourself, it’s time to act—FAST. Use the communication strategies we shared in yesterday’s newsletter and commit to NEVER GOING TO BED ANGRY. TALK IT OUT and LISTEN TO EACH OTHER

🚨 BEHAVIOR #2: Criticism
Do you find yourself NITPICKING your partner—attacking their personality, values, and everything they stand for? This isn’t just venting; it’s making your spouse feel UNWORTHY and UNLOVED. Over time, this will create a deep wedge between you, steering your relationship straight toward DIVORCE. If this sounds familiar, it’s time to STOP. Focus on your partner’s strengths, and APPRECIATE the good in them. Shift your mindset from criticism to CONSTRUCTIVE COMMUNICATION.

🚨 BEHAVIOR #3: Defensiveness
Are you always ready to DEFEND yourself, even before your partner finishes speaking? It may seem like a minor habit, but defensiveness is a SILENT RELATIONSHIP KILLER. When your spouse shares something important, brushing it off or countering it with excuses makes them feel UNHEARD and FRUSTRATED. Instead, try LOWERING YOUR GUARD. Listen fully, take responsibility where you can, and use this as a chance to GROW TOGETHER. This simple shift can TRANSFORM CONFLICT into constructive conversations.

🚨BEHAVIOR #4: Contempt
This one’s the WORST. Have you ever caught yourself rolling your eyes, mocking, or outright disrespecting your partner? Contempt isn’t just a bad habit—it’s the ultimate form of disrespect, and it’s toxic. When you show CONTEMPT, you’re telling your partner they’re beneath you. Over time, this erodes trust, kills intimacy, and makes divorce almost inevitable.

If this sounds familiar, it’s time to act. Remove toxic language from your interactions and focus on appreciating your partner’s good qualities. Remember, every word counts—choose respect to rebuild the love and trust in your relationship.

Don’t Let These Behaviors DESTROY Your Marriage!
These four behaviors may start small, but they can quickly spiral out of control—leading to fights, emotional disconnection, and even divorce. But here’s the GOOD NEWS: If you can recognize and address these behaviors, you can turn your marriage around.

Here’s what you can do RIGHT NOW:

1. Identify these behaviors in yourself.

2. Talk to your partner openly and honestly.

3. Seek help if needed. Don’t hesitate to involve a counselor.

4. ACT NOW before it’s too late!

Don’t wait until your marriage is hanging by a thread. Take action TODAY and protect the love you’ve built. Your marriage deserves a fighting chance—and YOU have the power to save it.

Stay strong,
Bukola Olotu

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